January~ Couples’ Tip~ Annual Relationship Review
The energy of the new calendar year brings with it the desire to begin anew and the hope that through reflection, review, and intention, we can find more meaning, connection, and joy. Couples that regularly assess their relationship constructively are more satisfied and intimate. By doing an annual relationship review, we can reassess and commit to our relationship goals, confront relationship obstacles, and prevent minor problems from ballooning to insurmountable ones.
As you look back on your relationship journey through 2021, use these questions with your partner to identify things you learned and set relationship goals for 2022. We recommend that you journal your answers to these questions on your own first, then share your answers with your partner. Note this list is skewed toward what worked and what created positive emotions. When you are the listener, commit to being curious and invite your partner’s truth. When speaking, stay with what you want and state positive needs.
Looking Back
What helped you feel loved and safe in 2021?
What precious relationship memory do you have from 2021?
How did you grow as an individual in 2021?
How did you grow as a couple in 2021?
What did you learn from your partner in 2021?
How did your partner make 2021 better for you?
In thinking about your relationship in 2021, what is one thing you would say goodbye to and not continue to do in 2022?
Embracing the Future
What is one goal for growth you’ve set for yourself for 2022?
How will you contribute to your relationship in 2022?
What do you appreciate about your partner’s approach to your relationship that you know you want to continue in 2022?
How would you like to grow as a couple in 2022? (Example: Listen to each other better)
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- List the ways you intend to meet your objective and how you will measure your success.
- Make a date to review the outcome.
